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ABCs Of Things To Do With LEGOs

January 20, 2020 by Courtney Gutierrez, M.Ed., BCBA, LBA

Little blond kid boy playing with lots of colorful plastic blocks indoor. child wearing colorful shirt and glasses, having fun with building and creating.

26 Expert Ideas To Use LEGOs in Facilitated Play

The holidays are a great time to brush up on your play nurturing skills. You’ll probably get an influx of new toys into your home. You’ll likely wonder where you’ll put them all or how you’ll support your child to manage new sources of sensory stimulation. After you have everything organized and sorted, you might feel too exhausted to play!

Facilitated play is one of the primary ways children with autism can learn from their environment. In facilitated play, you as the parent play with your child to help them learn how to play with new toys, or do new things with toys they already have. However, structuring play with open-ended toys like LEGOs is hard to do. You may draw a blank the second you sit down to play with your child. And, it can be extra tricky to keep children with autism engaged in an activity for long enough to make it feel worth it.

Parents need quick solutions for facilitating play that are easy to remember in the moment. The more simple strategies you have in your toolbox, the more flexible you can be in facilitating play that is fun and educational. Meaningful play doesn’t have to feel hard. 

One of the most popular toys your child might receive this Christmas are LEGOs. LEGOs can be difficult to keep track of and painful if you step on a stray brick, but they are also an incredible source of skill building opportunities for children with autism. Here’s our alphabet of strategies for playing with LEGOs:

A. Attach bricks for your child. At first, LEGOs might present too much of a fine motor challenge for your child to put them together independently. Encourage your child to practice their pincer grasp by picking up individual pieces and handing them to you. Then attach them yourself and show them what you made. 

B. Classic brick style LEGOs are great for beginners. It’s OK if the kit or set you have has other types and shapes of pieces as well. But start by showing how basic rectangular and square pieces can fit together. 

C. Color coding is optional. Sorting LEGO pieces by color can be really fun for some kids. You can use this type of play to teach colors, counting, comparison (light blue vs. dark blue, et cetera), collaboration (“let’s build a gray house together”), confidence (“you did a great job collecting all the yellow pieces together!”), concepts (“there are only a few pink bricks, but there are a lot of blue ones”), and mental calculations (“there are three red bricks here; there are two red bricks over by the couch – that means we have five red bricks”). However, you don’t have to color code LEGOs for storage – if it’s too time consuming to do so, keep all the bricks together in an under-bed plastic storage container. 

D. Define nouns, verbs, and abstract concepts as you go. “I’m going to build a car. A car is a type of vehicle. Other types are planes and trains. I will put the wheels on first. The wheels make the car go. It will be hard because I have to fit each wheel onto the bar, and click the bars onto the bottom of my car.”

E. Extra pieces from LEGO sets that are assembled according to the instruction packet can be used to build small creative structures. This is a great way to encourage generative building skills in addition to following prescribed steps. Or, they can be added into your general LEGO storage bin for later use during generative building play. 

F. Following directions from kits with instruction sets is a great way to build structure into what would otherwise be open-ended play. But, if you are not playing with a kit and are building creatively with a random assortment of LEGOs, you can still work on following directions. Practice giving your child a variety of basic instructions, helping them follow them as part of play, and giving them specific praise for the direction they followed. 

G. LEGOs can grow with you and your child. Start with Duplos if traditional LEGOs are too hard to manipulate. Give as much help as your child needs at first. If they want to spend the entire playtime watching you build something, that’s great!

H. Higher is just the beginning. Yes, building towers is a great beginner skill to practice with LEGOs. But if your child has mastered that task, experiment with other structures, like houses, pools, launchpads, vehicles, farms, and oceans.

I. Increase independence gradually. Break down the steps and help your child with them, or do all but one step. For example, have them give you the piece while you put it on. Or put the piece loosely on the other piece and show them how to press it so it clicks fully into place.

J. Junior LEGOs are a great intermediary product to use in between Duplos and traditional LEGOs. They are a little bigger and easier to attach and take apart than traditional LEGOs, but more advanced than Duplos. 

K. Keep extra pieces in a general or miscellaneous container. Pieces that are superfluous one day might be critical the next.

L. Longer is not better. Short bursts of play can maximize your child’s motivation to practice new skills. End the play session early enough so you both feel successful. Start with five or ten minutes, and expand from there.

M. Practice crossing the midline. Help your child assemble pieces directly in front of them so that both hands are working together and crossing the invisible “line” in the middle of their body. Encourage them to reach across to their opposite side to get a certain piece. This helps them develop body awareness and practice motor planning. 

N. Narrate what you are doing. Keep up a running commentary of what you and your child are doing, even if you’re not yet building a structure. “You put the red piece over there. I am going to look for a piece with six dots. You have a lot of pieces in a pile. Maybe a six dot piece is in that pile!”

O. Bricks don’t have to be organized. You can organize as part of your play session if your child likes to do that. Beyond keeping LEGOs together in one place without other types of toys getting mixed in, there is no need to categorize them further unless you want to.

P. Prepositions are perfect to practice during LEGO play. Up, under, in, out, down, on top, over, through, around, inside – the possibilities to talk about and demonstrate these concepts are endless!

Q. Quell the urge to direct play to go in a certain way. Follow your child’s lead and adjust your expectations in the moment. Facilitate with flexibility, not rigidity.

R. Respect your child’s wishes if they want to keep a structure built after playtime is over. Displaying LEGO structures for a few days after they’re done promotes confidence. Your child will experience permanence as well as ephemerality related to play experiences.

S. Keep it simple! You don’t have to do more than attach two pieces to each other to successfully build with LEGOs. And, if your child shows you they would prefer to play with their LEGOs alone, that’s OK too. You can also build next to each other without talking sometimes, as an alternative to all of the above ideas. Follow your child’s preference.

T. Take turns adding pieces to a collaborative structure. Practice taking turns with pieces, too. Ask your child for a certain piece and help them give it to you – then reverse the roles. 

U. Undo structures with as much reverence as you build them. Taking things apart shows kids how things work. When you detach LEGO pieces, you can demonstrate the function each piece served. For example, take apart a LEGO car to show how the wheels made it go.

V. Incorporate variety into play by building ten different structures that each have a different amount of pieces, or build with all yellow pieces one day and all gray pieces the next day. Use only pieces that are on the right side of the bin, or build what the inside of a rocket ship would look like instead of the outside. 

W. When you’ve run out of ideas of what to build or how to play, think about the 5 Ws: Who, what, where, when, and why. You can also use the 5 Ws to help you come up with ideas of what to say to narrate play.

X. Exercise pre-academic skills and concepts, like counting with one-to-one correspondence by touching each piece as you count, or identifying colors and asking your child to find a piece that is that color.

Y. Say yes to your child’s ideas. If they want to build something you think will be too hard, identify a productive alternative. Example: “I want to build a kitchen.” “OK. Let’s start with building a stove.”

Z. Use zones to organize play. This is especially helpful if you have multiple children. Identify a space for collaborative play, a space for each person’s independent play, a space for “discards,” and a space for display.

Courtney Gutierrez, M.Ed., BCBA, LBA

Courtney Gutierrez, M.Ed., BCBA, LBA Courtney is a behavior analyst, educator, and writer in the Pacific Northwest. She has over fifteen years of experience in the field of autism services, and over ten years of master’s level experience in classroom teaching and ABA therapy. Her areas of expertise include infant and toddler development, parent coaching, ABA clinical leadership and training, P-12 special education, and case consultation for children and young adults with autism and other special needs. Courtney lives in Seattle with her husband and two children.

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7 Simple Books To Teach Social Emotional Awareness

January 16, 2020 by Courtney Gutierrez, M.Ed., BCBA, LBA

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Is social emotional awareness hard for your child on the spectrum? Worry that it’ll be hard for him or her to make friends? Our experts love these books – and your child will too!

There are plenty of children’s books out there specifically designed for teaching social emotional awareness and skills. For example, the WorryWoo Monsters series spotlights an emotion per book, with a monster experiencing and problem solving that emotion. The MySELF theme boxed sets come with 6 books each, explaining familiar scenarios that cause big emotions, avoiding abstract terms so that they are more accessible for children with autism who benefit from concrete terminology.

However, it is not necessary to use only books written expressly for the purpose of social emotional learning in order to accomplish the same goal. Many children’s books can be ideal vehicles for teaching social emotional awareness. If they are motivating for your child, they will provide a valuable jumping off point for discussing and practicing problem solving skills.

Here is a roundup of some great children’s books that were not necessarily specifically designed for SEL (social emotional learning) but that fit the bill just the same. This list is by no means exhaustive, but it’s a great starting point – or a collection of fresh ideas to add to your child’s already existing library.

My Many-Colored Days by Dr. Seuss

My Many-Colored Days is a fantastic tool for teaching early foundations of social emotional awareness. The book is written in first person, making it easy to relate to, and it’s relatively short, benefitting children who may have shorter attention spans or are still developing tolerance for longer narratives and books. Each page in this book is a study in a separate emotion. There are colors associated with each emotion, which can be helpful for adults as well as children to foster simple language for talking about how experiences feel. The book touches on some causes of emotions and allows lots of room for parents to elaborate if they would like.

https://www.amazon.com/Many-Colored-Days-Dr-Seuss/dp/0679875972/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=My+Many-Colored+Days+by+Dr.+Seuss&qid=1578890568&sr=8-1

Llama Llama, Mad at Mama

The Llama Llama series is a great option in general for teaching social emotional awareness, as it takes children through many experiences they are likely to share with the titular character. For example, the original book in the series, Llama Llama, Red Pajama, deals with emotions related to the bedtime routine – from not wanting to go to bed, to fear of the dark, to desire for routine. Llama Llama, Mad at Mama, deals more directly with anger as an emotion and helps parents teach effective and appropriate skills for coping with anger, as well as naming it and some of its possible causes.

https://www.amazon.com/Llama-Mad-at-Mama/dp/0670062405/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Llama+Llama%2C+Mad+at+Mama&qid=1578891263&sr=8-1

It’s Okay to Be Different, The Feelings Book, and Other Books by Todd Parr

Todd Parr uses short phrases and sentences along with bright colored, boxy illustrations in all of his children’s books, making them highly accessible and meaningful for a range of readers and not-yet-readers. These books rely on the illustrations just as much as the words in the book to tell about each emotion or situation. Again, the books aren’t dependent on a beginning-to-end narrative to tell their story, so each page in and of itself is a miniature learning tool. The books also have a knack for mixing relatively harmless or funny situations and feelings in with more intense ones. For example, The Feelings Book puts “Sometimes I feel like standing on my head” on the page right after “Sometimes I feel scared.” This helps children who may be easily overwhelmed.

https://www.amazon.com/Okay-Different-Todd-Parr-Classics/dp/0316043478/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=It%E2%80%99s+Okay+to+Be+Different%2C+The+Feelings+Book&qid=1578905780&sr=8-1

Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon

Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon does not directly use as much concrete language about emotions as some of the other books on this list, but it is a highly relatable story that parents can use to teach valuable SEL skills. In the book, Molly Lou Melon moves with her family to a new house and new school, and experiences emotions like self-doubt and uncertainty. Molly Lou’s facial expressions in the illustrations mirror her emotions fairly realistically, providing several great opportunities to practice emotion identification by pointing to the pictures and asking “how is she feeling?” Stand Tall, Molly Lou Melon also deals with bullying in a way that is educational but not too advanced for very young children to understand.

https://www.amazon.com/Stand-Tall-Molly-Lou-Melon/dp/0399234160/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Stand+Tall%2C+Molly+Lou+Melon&qid=1578905977&sr=8-1

The Daniel Tiger Books

There’s a reason why the Daniel Tiger cartoon has gained so much popularity with parents of very young children, who feel like they can trust the message of the show in any episode. There are numerous Daniel Tiger books which have been adapted from the television series, and do similar work in going the extra mile to describe not only the emotions of Daniel Tiger and his friends relative to many every day experiences but also teaching problem solving skills using simple, relatable language and songs. The books are great as a standalone, or as an accompaniment to the show.

https://www.amazon.com/Goodnight-Daniel-Tiger-Tigers-Neighborhood/dp/1481423487/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=The+Daniel+Tiger+Books&qid=1578906210&sr=8-2

The Curious George Books

The Curious George books have been around for quite awhile, and as a result it is possible to find one dealing with almost any scenario, event, common experience, or emotion. George is also nonverbal, making the stories accessible for a wide range of ages and abilities. George often gets into mischief by trying to emulate the actions of those around him – both children and adults – and then has to deal with the uncomfortable feelings associated with his failures, such as embarrassment. These books are also a great illustration of how it’s not only George who learns from his experiences, but also the people in his life who learn to accommodate according to his needs and abilities. And, George’s feelings are never diminished or ignored.

https://www.amazon.com/Treasury-Curious-George-H-Rey/dp/1328905144/ref=sr_1_5?keywords=The+Curious+George+Books&qid=1578906432&sr=8-5

The Elephant and Piggie Series by Mo Willems

The Elephant and Piggie series became almost instant classics when they were first released in the early 2000s. There are now 25 books available, each describing a surprising event (such as a bird building a nest on one character’s head) that will engage children who want to know how the problem is resolved.

These books are favorites to read again and again, as they are funny and provide entertainment even when you know them by heart. The books are a great way to teach early sequencing skills and narrative understanding to children in a way that’s quick and easy – only a few words or short sentences per page, and sometimes illustrations only without any text – yet they also astutely cover many emotions familiar to young children in early social scenarios, such as envy and intimidation.

Elephant and Piggie often help each other identify how they are feeling, as well as the source of the feeling – or communicate their own feelings with each other. As a result, the books provide a great model of how to practice empathy actions for children with autism who may need extra exposure and opportunities, and benefit from character-based learning before having to demonstrate that type of skill directly with other people.

For example, in My Friend Is Sad, Piggie demonstrates how to identify emotions based on Gerald’s nonverbal cues like sighing and slouching. In Can I Play Too? Gerald and Piggie have to problem solve when a third character wants to play their game, but their game doesn’t necessarily fit the abilities of that friend, without hurting the friend’s feelings.

https://www.amazon.com/Waiting-Easy-Elephant-Piggie-Book/dp/142319957X/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=The+Elephant+and+Piggie+Series+by+Mo+Willems&qid=1578906829&sr=8-1
Courtney Gutierrez, M.Ed., BCBA, LBA

Courtney Gutierrez, M.Ed., BCBA, LBA Courtney is a behavior analyst, educator, and writer in the Pacific Northwest. She has over fifteen years of experience in the field of autism services, and over ten years of master’s level experience in classroom teaching and ABA therapy. Her areas of expertise include infant and toddler development, parent coaching, ABA clinical leadership and training, P-12 special education, and case consultation for children and young adults with autism and other special needs. Courtney lives in Seattle with her husband and two children.

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8 Easy Strategies to Help Kids With Autism Cope With Changes In Routine

January 13, 2020 by Elizabeth Purpero

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Is it really hard for your child on the spectrum to cope with changes to routine? Not sure how to help them? Then try the ideas in this article!

Kids with autism thrive on routine and always like to know what’s right around the corner.  In a recent post, I discussed using visual schedules to help routines run smoother. But what about the times when routines are out of whack?

Life happens.  Vacations, illness, bad weather, even road construction can derail a kid’s schedule. So how do you get through these wrenches life throws at you? Today’s post talks about how to help kids with autism deal with change in routine. 

Prepare For The Unexpected

Change can be hard, especially for those living with autism. Spontaneous change can be particularly difficult because there isn’t time for foreshadowing. Even though you may not know what the unexpected will bring there are things you can do to help your child be prepared to deal with change in routine.

Manage Expectations By Using A Question Mark

  • As you write out your daily list with your child, put a question mark by a couple of activities to indicate those events are a possibility, not a certainty
  • Practice not doing those activities from time to time
  • Talk about things like not enough time, space, or materials
  • Make a plan to do the canceled event another time

Model Behavior That Deals With Change In Routine

  • Pick a simple task you do and come up with a reason why you can’t do it when you were planning on it.  For example, you ran out of coffee and can’t make any.
  • Verbalize your thought process: “Oh, no I’m out of coffee and I want to make some.”
  • Express your feelings: “I really want coffee and am frustrated that I can’t have some.”
  • Talk about an alternative solution: “Well I can’t have coffee.  I can make another choice.  We have tea or hot chocolate.  I will pick tea.  Then I will put the coffee on the shopping list and buy some at the store so I can have it tomorrow.”

Talk About Life Interruptions

  • Write social stories about different scenarios that can change routines
  • During pretend play interactions roleplay changes in routine
  • Normalize situations like weather changes, people run late, etc.

How To Deal With Change In Routine

Helping kids understand plans change at a moment’s notice can deal with change in routine. When schedules are broken it still is normal to get upset.  Here are some tips to help them work through the disappointment.

Help Your Child Calm Down

  • Help your child calm down with the tools you normally use before discussing the change in routine
  • Let your child select a preferred activity to help redirect and distract from disappointment
  • Take a sensory break to help calm child

Talk About It!

  • After your child is calmer and in a good spot to talk discuss the situation
  • Help child recall how life can change through social stories, role-playing or past events

Make A New Plan For The Change

  • Provide alternative solutions:  “We normally go to the park, but it’s raining.  Instead, we could build an obstacle course or go on a scavenger hunt.”
  • Let your child help decide what the solution will be
  • Help your child see when he or she will be able to get back to a normal routine. Look at the calendar, write down a schedule for the next day, etc.

Reward Your Child

  • Praise your child for coping and making alternative plans
  • Describe the positive behaviors: ”I like how you calmed down after taking some deep breaths and made another choice”
  • Reward child: extra time for favorite activity, extra attention from you, stickers or another treat

An unexpected change in routine can be difficult and disappointing.  Following these tips will help kids with autism deal with change in routine and teach them valuable skills in flexibility and going with the flow.

Elizabeth Purpero

Elizabeth Purpero is a licensed school counselor and licensed professional counselor-in-training.  She has her master’s in counseling psychology.  Elizabeth has worked as an autism therapist with children and teens.  During her career, she has worked in intensive at-home therapy programs utilizing ABA and play therapy along with OT and speech therapy techniques.  She has also worked as a mental health therapist helping clients address their mental health issues as it relates to autism.  Elizabeth’s background working with the autism community has greatly helped her work with students in schools too.  She has helped teachers implement effective strategies, create goals for IEP’s and make classrooms more sensory-friendly.  Mark Twain once said, “Write what you know about,” and Elizabeth enjoys writing about autism-related topics and providing additional resources to help those impacted by autism.

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